Hello again.

When I was talking about treating your kids as individuals, I meant if you do have kids in the future (hypothetical kids) because you seemed to be suggesting that these children in your dream maybe represent kids you might have in the future. I just feel that a lot of people develop problems as adults because when they are children, their parents often have an image of what they expect them to be, and when the kids don't fit the image exactly, the parents make them feel like they are disappointments and they grow up not feeling loved enough. So when you mentioned how you seem to love these children in your dream, it sort of set off a little bell in my head. Because if you have an image of your "dream children" in your head when you have real kids, your real kids may sense that they don't match that image exactly and feel that they're disappointing you in some way.

I think, in general, a lot of relationship problems, not just parent-child ones, happen because one person has an idealistic (dreamy?) image of what the other person should be, instead of just loving the other person for who they are.

Although, Babydreamer, I didn't mean to imply that you do this, I'm just being overly preachy