Thank you very much for the response. It makes a lot of sense. I am attracted to my boyfriend's fraternity brother. He is very sexual and I pretend that I don't approve of him in front of my boyfriend but I am attracted to him. I have been repressing a very sexual side of myself in order to keep the peace between my bofriend and I. You see, my boyfriend isn't the best in the intimacy department and I feel unfulfilled but I love him so I just suffer in silence. Could this be it?