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What about them makes you frustrated?

to not actually be able to live that i just dream it and dream it and i wish it were real.... but its not....

it just kills me to not be able to actually live it because im madly in love with this boy that suposedly likes me but too shy to actually say it

I think that's actually quite a beautiful phrase, rather poetic. It kind of sums up what a lot of dreams are about, things we aspire to in waking life. They're sometimes there to push us on towards the things we want, or towards achieving knew goals.

It could be that the only way to get your current dreams to change quickly is to act on them, try and do something about the situation. You probably know that already though, and I know what it's like to be too shy to do it - one of the worst things in the world. Have you told anyone you know about it, or is that too scary as well? You could try writing him a letter on paper, even if you don't deliver it you may find it helpful to make your feelings more solid.

When I was 15 I was really shy and liked someone called Sandra, but I was way too scared to actually say anything to her. One day I found out where she lived and sent her a ring, just a cheap little toy thing really rather than proper jewelry. I was terrified when I went to school, wondering what she would say, and when I did get to see her she was quite horrible about it. Well not totally nasty, but she said she didn't like it and asked me why I sent it, knowing that I liked her - then this other girl Sarah too it off her and said it was quite nice. Now this didn't get me anywhere at all with Sandra, I even lied and said my brother must have sent it as a joke, but it did show me that she wasn't all that nice after all and not worth bothering with. Still, if I had been smarter like I am now, I would have realized that Sarah liked me and should have gone with her instead, but it never occurred to me at the time.

Even though it was embarrassing I would still have done it all over again. I would much rather find out that someone doesn't like me after all than not know, plus you never know who does like you - it could well turn out to be fantastic.

Do you know him quite well, or are you more admiring him from a distance?

what does that last dream mean? if you don't mind me asking!

i do know him a bit well and when i talk to him i feel like im a totally different person like if we had been best friends for ever

It could either mean that you want him to be closer to you, inside your house/inside your mind (houses usually represent your inner self), or it could just represent that he is inside your thoughts all the time, which I guess he is from what you say. I think it's more likely the first though.

Also on the dream themes page it says this about white:

The death part of it doesn't have to be about actual death, but more the death of your younger self, your inhibitions and shyness perhaps.

You could also factor in Plants in Dreams if you like, I think it all adds to the same thing about you being in love with someone and/or wanting to grow beyond your current self.

Honestly though, try not to spend too much of your life worrying about your dreams, they aren't there to drive you nuts, even though it seems like it sometimes.

hahaha ok.. thanks! sorry it took so long to figure this out! :P

is there anything you want to clear out before the case is closed?

Heh, makes me sound some kind of Dream Detective.