so i had a dream that i was with my family and girlfriend at a party, but as everybody was leavin my ex (who i still think about...) came out of nowhere... and then it started getting intense if you know what im sayin... then i woke up remembering every detail and could feel the pressure where her lips met mine. im a little confused. can anybody help me out here?

It was probably just your unconscious mind giving the opportunity to enjoy some intimacy with your ex without any of the bad stuff that took place in your relationship, and without messing up your waking life relationships.

So, assuming that you and your ex were OK together physically, you get the good part of the relationship in your dream without having to deal with any bad stuff.

that does make a lot of sense, but should it be happening a lot? just recently it seems to be the same type of dream in different settings.

Maybe the dream was so enjoyable the first time that your unconscious wanted more? I'm assuming that the dream, itself was pleasurable; nothing bad or upsetting happened to you while you were in the dream.

Do you see or have contact with your ex at all in waking life, which could make you have her in your mind when you go to sleep?

No, nothing bad at all but we haven't spoke to each other in a about 5 months.. she does come up in conversations frequently though.

Could there be something going on in your life now that reminds you of your relationship with your ex or just reminds you of something else that was happening in your life when you were with your ex?

well my relationship is a little rocky right now, be me and my ex'x relationship just kind of ended no reasons or fights, we just stopped seein each other. would that be a cause of the dream?

Yes, the problems in your current relationship could be reminding you of the problems you had with your ex.

Or part of you might be thinking, in response to the problems you have now, that you might have been better off with your ex.