I am currently in a 3 and a half year very happy and loving relationship... the problem is is that i continually have dreams about an ex boyfriend of mine who up until a few months ago, i havent spoken to in years... ive been having these dreams for years, and never really told anyone about them because i didnt know what they meant. lately, ive been having them more often. A few weeks ago my bf stayed over for a few nights and almost each night he was here, i dreamt of my ex boyfriend... i feel absolutely awful and guilty for having such dreams then waking up next to my bf. so guilty that i feel sexually and emotionally restrained and its starting to take affect on my relationship..i finally gathered the courage to try to explain all of this to my boyfriend and i tried to make him understand that i dont want these dreams and they make me feel guilty and that i pray for them to stop. i did a little research on dream interpretations one said that...

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other interpretations suggest i follow my dream and get close with my ex again... i love my boyfriend now and i know he will take care of me for the rest of my life as long as i let him, unfortunately i cannot say the same about my ex whom which i cant stop dreaming about...

so what do i do? right now im just trying to be honest and true to my emotions but i dont want my subconscious to interfere with a happy relationship if it isnt necessary.

any advice is helpful. thankyou!!

Hi Aly.

I've had to delete the quote you posted from another website because copying content from other websites violates copyright laws.

However, I do agree that dreaming about an ex could be a way of reminding you of similarities between that relationship and the one you have now, and warning you not to get into bad habits that you got into in your previous relationship.

Since you are at the 3 1/2 year mark in your relationship now, you are getting to the point in your relationship where you are started to feel "settled", so you could possibly be worried about slipping into habits that could cause problems.

On the other hand, the dream might not have anything to do with your ex or your relationship with your ex at all - it could have to do with the time during which that relationship took place. Maybe something was going on then that reminds you of something that is happening in your life now, which may or may not have anything to do directly with either your ex or your current boyfriend.

There is some information on this page on Relationship Dreams that you might find helpful.

Also, if the dreams about your ex mainly involved having sex, then your dreams could just be a normal release of sexual urges. It's pretty normal to have dreams about sex with people other than your partner. It doesn't mean that you would actually have sex with them.

If you love your boyfriend and are happy in your current relationship, you shouldn't do anything that might hurt that relationship.

You should definitely not feel guilty about dreaming about your ex. It's not something that you can really control (unless you are lucid dreaming, which is a whole different story).