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That's a bit over the top. You don't need to turn into a stalker, Angel. Can't you just approach him and talk to him?

She can't because he moved.

well,I do know one person that was one of his old friends I think,but his old friend isn't in any of my classes or lunch(I see him in the hallways though)..And it would be really hard to just randomly ask him if he knew his # or email address..So I guess in this case,I do have to turn a little bit into stalker cause there's nothing I can do to contact him unless I look him up on the internet or phonebook..But I can't even find him on the internet because he's under the age of 18 and I'm really scared to call all these #'s that I found in the phonebook(It's because I don't know if it's the right # or not..if I knew if it was the right #,I would called it.)..I'm really desperate to find his # or email address,but I don't know how to find it on the internet when he's under the age of 18..How do I find it if he is??Please write back ASAP!!!

If you haven't already, I would try looking him up on Myspace. It seems like everyone is on there nowadays.

It seems to me that randomly calling him up on the phone shouldn't be any more awkward than asking one of his friends for his email address. Since, after all, you've never really talked to him. I don't know if there is any other way to find him since he's under 18, at any rate if you found him on a website like whitepages.com you'd have to pay about $40 to get his address and stuff... But I doubt he's even on there. The only other thing I can think of right now is you can try googling him, but you've probably already done that.

The best way would be to get up the nerve to ask his friend. You've already got the nerve to call him, so that shouldn't be too much worse. But I must warn you, he might be a little freaked out when he learns how much trouble you went to to find him. You might come off as sort of a stalker.

well,ya I have tried that like a million times already and there's only one person that I found,but I'm not exactly sure if that's him or not.I don't think it is him because it says that he's 24 years old(I know people lie about age sometimes,but still..)and he looks like he's 20 something,too..I don't know..Should I ask him??Don't they have to have a URL so you can search them and stuff?How am I suppose to figure out if he has a myspace or not if you can only find people that have a URL??

Well,I have tried calling some #'s I found in the phonebook 2 years ago,but I'm really scared to call now..And I don't know when it should be necessary to ask his old friend(when should it be really necessary to just ask or when's the right time??)And I'm afraid he'll think I'm weird or something if I asked him..Do you think he would??

Oh no..I didn't wanna know that...It's good that you told me,but still,it's very shocking.See,that's what I'm afraid of...I don't want him to be freaked out.I mean,I don't blame him for being freaked out or anything cause I would be a little too,but I just don't want him to get mad at me or scared of me or something you know.I would hate that..Hopefully,he doesn't learn the trouble I went through to find him and if he does,hopefully he'll understand..Do ya think he will??

another thing I wanted to mention to you..you know in the summer after the 6th grade,my friend was over at my house this one time and she looked up his # and called it(it was the right #..).She asked if he was there and he was.When he answered,she asked him if he wanted to talk to me and I guess he didn't mind(I didn't know what he had said because he wasn't on speaker phone..).But for some stupid reason,I told my friend I didn't wanna talk to him..(I was shy and I actually did really wanna talk to him..)so,it wouldn't be so weird if I called again right??even though that was 2 years ago..

It would seem the least freaky if you contact him through Myspace... There's a good chance he's on there because everyone seems to be on there nowadays. Just because you did a search for him and you didn't find him, doesn't mean he's not on there, he might not have used his full name. I was going to tell you to go to browse and look for him that way, but I see that you have to be 18 to show up there. I was then going to tell you to look up his friend on Myspace, and look at his friend's list and see if he's on it, but I think if your under 18 your profile is automatically set to private. So I think you're basically screwed.

The only other non-stalkerish way I can think of is to find him on Facebook (another social networking website, in case you don't know). He's probably not on there right now since you're only in junior high, Facebook is more of a college student thing, but more recently it's become a high school thing as well. You'd be more likely to find him on that since people usually use their real names.

And yeah, sorry but it would be kind of weird if you called him again.

So, I'd say go find a new crush, and if you still like the other guy in a year or so you can try finding him on Facebook.

oh..great..*looks disappointed*..just my luck..oh well,maybe I can just daydream like I've been doing..I know it's not making me very happy,but I never get that lucky in reality anyways...*looks sad* and it seems like every time I get a chance for something really great in life,I just blow it for myself..I make myself sick..yeah,I really can't move on..It's just not working this time and honestly, if I dated someone else,I probaly wouldn't be very happy..*sighs* And I guess the only thing I can do right now is to just to call all those #'s or ask his old friend and hope for the best...

Sorry, it would be easier if he was 18. I'm the kind of person who knows about internet stalking, and your best bet is Myspace but it's really hard if you're under 18... Internet stalking is pretty limited anyway, people sort of like to have privacy and stuff... They don't like having all their information out there for anyone to find. You can go ahead and try those things, but I hope you're not disappointed...

Well,I am very disappointed obviously,but not in what advice you gave me or anything,just in myself..I wish there was something I could do cause I really hate this.I've tried to look him up on myspace and myyearbook..I've tried to look up his old friend,Zach on myspace.but I haven't really tried the #'s really(I'm too afraid to do it unless I have a friend to call the #'s for me..)or getting the nerves to ask Zach if he knows his # or email address..Do ya think he's gonna think that I'm weird for asking that???