Good Morning Everyone

I'm new around here but I decided to post because I need more opinions on my dreams.

For a few years..I kept dreaming about this 1 kid. This dream went on for about 4 years. Each dream was different but in it..I always had this little curly haired little boy! His age & skin complexion would vary from dream to dream but he was always this sweet beautiful kid with curly hair and I knew that he was my kid

He'd never say anything but was always happy around me & seemed like a real doll

Total I've had about 22 dreams of this boy! Now I know some people are gonna say that baby dreams mean this or that..but I'm not so sure

I have nothing against dream dictionaries but I know that dreams are personal for each individual & they mean different things to different people. And NO this was not some secret wish to have a child.
I like kids as much as the next person but now is not the time
And I sure don't think these kids are me because I dont get that ME vibe..if that makes sense

I feel like something deeper is going on here but I have no real proof that it is...I can't even get anyone to really take it seriously..they always think its my biological clock but I know that its not

When I wake up from these dreams I always feel sad..like my kid is out there somewhere & it makes my soul hurt

2 days ago I had yet another dream! I haven't had one of those baby dreams in about 2 years but here it was!

In the dream I'm sitting in the passenger seat of a car..my boyfriend is driving & in the back in a car seat was the cutest little girl I've ever seen!
She was this adorable chubby bundle of joy..she had to be around 10 months old with dark curly hair & dark brown eyes. She had her hand in her mouth & was kinda grinning. Then my boyfriend went to get her out of the car seat to give her kisses & stuff and she looked to be so in love with him & he looked like he was so in love with her too!

It was the sweetest thing I ever saw! At first I thought the child was a young cousin of mine because I got that vibe at first..but when I woke up..that feeling stayed with me. Oddly enough..my young cousin & I are extremely close. I'm 30 years old & she's 4.

Since day 1 we were inseparable & we don't like being apart..she actually looks more like me than her own parents! Theres this divine bond between her & I that tends to make her mother jealous sometimes.
I feel like in some other life she may have been my child

So I'm wondering are these kids my future kids? I have no problems if they are..I just wanna know something because I don't think its right to be teased this way

So how do you tell people your heart hurts over some child that doesn't exist or may ever exist?

I really wish I could talk to someone who can relate..seems like everytime my heart beats I see her face & her smile

Its very odd to feel this way but I do

Does anyone have any comments?

Thanx! Tee

Hi...Nice to hear from you.....Interesting dream! I'll give it some thought and get back to you...I'm sure others will too

Hey Nicko

Nice to hear from you too! I feel so much better now that I've gotten this off my chest but I still feel "weird" yanno..like someone took my child away

Hello babydreamer and welcome. I don't think the dream dictionary definition of babies fits your experience, dream dictionaries are only a guide for general symbolism anyway; usually helpful for a dream that pops out of nowhere that you've never had before... I think it's great that you feel the vibe of your dreams sometimes, not everyone does that, because it shows a deep connection with your unconscious; something that no one fully understands yet, perhaps we never will?

There doesn't always have to be a meaning in a dream, though there often is; the child/children in your dreams could be real, from the past, maybe from the future (this is very rare I think), or some kind of spiritual force that follows you around and appears in your dreams. I don't know if this all sounds like nonsense or not, but that's the way dreams sound sometimes when you try and explain them in waking life. I also have people that I see only in dreams, there's one mentioned on THIS PAGE that used to only appear in lucid dreams and some OBEs; and others that seemed so close to me that I couldn't believe I might not see them again when I woke up.

Anyway, dream dictionaries and interpretations aside; two things are for certain, there's no such thing as a weird/strange dream (as dreams are that by their very nature) and talking about them with friends (the understanding ones) and/or people that have similar experiences always helps. I also think talking about our dreams sends a message to our brains that we'd like to understand them better and sometimes forces the dreams to become more clear.

Hello Maljonic! Thank you for responding!

I'm pretty much one of those rare people who knows themselves very well so usually when I dream about people that have passed or people that I know..I can immediately figure out what the message is

But these kids baffle me because there is no message!

This last dream was different because it was a FAMILY scene..where before..it was apparently some immaculate conception the kid had no father or maybe I hadn't learned enough at that point to where I would be allowed to see who the father is? Does that make sense?

These kids had no features that would even hint at who their father could be but in my last dream..I have to assume that my boyfriend was her father judging from their interaction together

Now I would say that this dream hinted that maybe I'd want a family or something because things felt perfect in the dream..yet when I wake up..its about HER..not the family

I dont think dreams are weird in a BAD way..but just weird in a way that its your own personal puzzle that not many people can help you with

It sends you on journeys that have no apparent destination that I'm aware of

It'll be interesting to see what everyone else has to say though

Hi Babydreamer. First of all, I don't believe dreams can predict the future, so whether there are children in your future is up to you. Free will

I also have a hunch that the children in your dream aren't real children at all. At first I thought they were aspects of your own personality, but you said you don't get that "me" vibe. You should try and think about what things in your life they might represent. I don't know if or how well you can control your dreams, but ìf you can, the next time one of these kids shows up in your dream, you should try to ask him or her who they are and what they want.

P.S. This is probably obvious, but if you do have children in real life they are going to be their own individuals, different from your "dream children." Love your real children for who they are, not for who you expect or want them to be. OK, off my soapbox now

Hey Marcia

First off let me say that I am not an advanced dreamer.
I'm still very much just lead around by the dream..I don't have any control nor do I know how to get it

Well the first set of dreams..I have no idea what they'd represent with all the little boys..it was just my kid coming to hang with me..and thats all I took it as. Most times they're too young to speak & if they could..I'm not sure they'd be able to express themselves accurately
The fact that they looked happy being with me was enough though

The dream with little girl was different somehow. Thats the first time it was an actual girl but she still had the curly hair & the sweet personality.
Its also a first that I wasnt alone..I wasnt a "single parent"...
Not that that mattered..I didn't seem to be upset that my boys didn't have a father that I could pinpoint..I was happy with him & he was happy with me but in the last dream with my girl...I felt like my life was perfect

Nahh I dont have any children but I do have a little sister & little cousins

I definitely treat them like individuals because they are..I love them all

I guess I'd like to know who these kids are..if thats possible

Hello again.

When I was talking about treating your kids as individuals, I meant if you do have kids in the future (hypothetical kids) because you seemed to be suggesting that these children in your dream maybe represent kids you might have in the future. I just feel that a lot of people develop problems as adults because when they are children, their parents often have an image of what they expect them to be, and when the kids don't fit the image exactly, the parents make them feel like they are disappointments and they grow up not feeling loved enough. So when you mentioned how you seem to love these children in your dream, it sort of set off a little bell in my head. Because if you have an image of your "dream children" in your head when you have real kids, your real kids may sense that they don't match that image exactly and feel that they're disappointing you in some way.

I think, in general, a lot of relationship problems, not just parent-child ones, happen because one person has an idealistic (dreamy?) image of what the other person should be, instead of just loving the other person for who they are.

Although, Babydreamer, I didn't mean to imply that you do this, I'm just being overly preachy

Ohhhh ok I get it now..I know what you mean

I'm sure I'll love my children no matter what..I was just curious

Sorry, I wasn't too helpful with the dream, was I