For the past few year I have had the same type of recurring dream of an ex boyfriend of mine. I was very much in love with him and our break up was pretty traumatic for me. I have since moved on and have been in a serious relationship for almost 3 years now. Every time I have one of these dreams I wake up sad or depressed and I really am trying to just move forward with my life. Any help as to why I have these dreams and what they mean would be appreciated.

The settings for these recurring dreams vary, but the basic scenario is always me seeing the "ex" for the first time in a long while and being really happy to see him. The mood quickly changes and I get really sad and upset because he will always say in one way or another that he has moved on and is with someone else now (side note: he is married now). I beg and plead for him to take me back but he just keeps insisting that he has moved on. I always wake up from these dreams feeling really sad. The frequency of these dreams are inconsistent, sometimes I'll have this dream just once a month and sometimes I will have it more often. I would really like to stop having these dreams...any insight?

Do you tend to have these dreams when you are having problems or are upset about something in your life - either with your current relationship or with something else in life.

The dreams could be a case of "The grass is always greener".

When you are unhappy in your life now your unconscious remembers the good times you had with your ex and you forget about the bad times.

I haven't noticed any pattern with these dreams. "The grass is always greener" theory definately applies to me though. I feel like I am always comparing current relationships to past ones.