I had a multicolour dream about a collegue at work. I must admit that I fancy him a lot in awake life although he is married and nothing "tangible" is going on.

In the dream he had broken his leg and was put in a wheelchair. For some reason I was designated to take care of him and push him around in the chair. I had also been placed in charge of babysitting the five year old daughter of another collegue of mine (I have never met the child in real life, but in the dream I instantly it knew must be her. I've seen pictures since and the child in the dream looks nothing like her.)

The child had put her arms around my neck and was hanging on my back like a rugsack. I gazed at her over my shoulder and said;
"You are being very cuddly today, aren't you?" The little girl giggled. My collegue in the wheel chair turned around and said: "You should know that I am also very cuddly." (This made me laugh a lot even in the dream, since the man in question could be described in many ways, but he is opposite to cuddly. )

Besides carrying the little girl and pushing the wheelchair with my collegue I had to carry my collegues laptop. (In awake life he NEVER parts with his computor. It is his most precious belonging.) I carry it and when the girl kicks and plays, I drop it. It falls to the ground and is smashed in a thousand pieces. I feel extremly scared in the dream, thinking that my collegue will freak out, but he just shruggs his shoulders and says "Well, well, these things happen..."

I have been laughing about my dream for a couple of days, and then Today, my collegue came to talk to me (in awake life) and said: "I've heard that you want a laptop. Would you like mine? It's quite new still and I'm getting another one." I was perplexed and asked myself what that was all about.

So, did you accept his gift of the laptop?

I think the child that is cuddly could represent your need for affection. She is that part of you that longs for affection.

I also think the dream was sort of a premonition. You dream about him and a laptop, now in reality he is offering it to you. In the dream, you accidently drop it and then find out it isn't a big deal to him like you thought it would be. Then you find out this is so.

Do you suppose he fancies you in reality?

Of course I want his laptop; It's beautiful Mac with everything in it. (I must admit that I would like to have it with contents and all, but I suppose that will not happen.)

Yes, I think he does fancy me. He gives me a lot of compliments and he is very shy and studdering when we are alone together (he is never like that otherwise). He always answers my e-mail within a couple of minutes, even on week-ends and in late eavnings. He always writes to me when he is on a trip somewhere etc. I don't think he knows the way I feel 'though, since I am quite charming towards all men and he cannot be sure that I see him as special. Since he makes me very nervous I also avoid to met him "live" as much as I can which I think makes him disappointed. It's all very frustrating - and it has been like this for years.

Why does he have a broken leg and is in a weelchair in the dream?

My guess is either you would like a relationship where you have the advantage, or you percieve him as vulnerable in some way.

If it's the former, you prefer a relationship that's equal or even a bit leaning toward your goals and desires. You don't want to be controlled or have him dictate the goals and direction of the relationship. You want control of that. That's probalby why you pushed him along in a wheelchair.

If the latter is true, the broken leg could mean that you perceive him as being like a wounded puppy---someone that needs a shoulder to cry on or someone with emotional or mental stress.

Thanks for your reply.

It's the latter, I think. I do perceive him as vulnurable and in desperate need for a shoulder to cry on. He is a very misreable workaholic with loads of psycho-somatic health problems. In awake life he is always asks me why I am being so good to him and he is the most obvious "confirmation seeker" that I have ever met. In my attraction to him there is both physical attraction, admiration and a whole lot of "nursing instinct" :?

I'm sure you know that in real life, a relationship with this man would be very bad, not just because he is married, but because he is "in desperate need for a shoulder to cry on...a very misreable workaholic with loads of psycho-somatic health problems. In awake life he is always asks me why I am being so good to him." If you did have a relationship (even forgetting about the fact that he's married) it would be a very unhealthy co-dependent relationship.

I think the little girl in the dream represents the part of you that wants to be innocent and naive, and just enjoy a relationship without thinking of the long-term consequences.

I think the girl breaking the laptop shows that if in real life you were to have this naive attitude, people would get hurt.